So this one is entitled just like me. I know I left you all for a while and I didn't seem like I was going to return. However, I returned for the true, loyal friends and readership that I have accumulated and are still hear. I still feel very grateful for everyone in my life and I see a very happy future ahead for me. So I've been spending a lot of time with my boi and things have been going well. Now I go into relationships expecting to approach some difficult question or time. I know everyone is not perfect including myself. However, this weekend I found out something about my boi that I really wasn't expecting. I mean he really didn't seem like the type so he caught me really off-guard. I was doing some work on his computer and I came across some documents that really hit me hard. It wasn't really what was on there that got to me but the extent of it. It really made me think whether I really knew this person or not. I'm usually a good judge or character and often I know things before people tell me but I didn't see this one coming. When I saw this I didn't know how to react it mostly brought shock and a question as to why it was there. The first thing we seem to do is judge the person but i forced myself to find to best way out. It just goes to show that as soon as you got things all figured out life shows that you can be extremely clueless. I mean it really wasn't as serious as the last long-term who turned out to be a one-hit pornstar wonder (if there is such a thing) but I ended up with him because he told me on our second date and didn't lie like so many others would have. It seems that people have been asking me to question my perception of them a lot lately. This is the second incident where a close person did something that was unexpected of them but I'll leave that for another post which I will be writing soon. So why did I name this post "Just Like Me?". That's because I've always tried to find someone who was just like me but that never seems to come through 100%.
So what do you do when the one you love shows you a different side of them that you didn't expect? Do you accept them or change them?
It feels good to be back,
Special K
12 comments:
I understand completely man. Me and one of my good friends used to say, when you meet someone u actually first meet their Press Agent or Secretary: the person that best represents the actual person, they will shine all kinds of positive light on the actual person and spin all negative press.
It's not till later that you meet the head honcho in charge and sometimes they're not much different then the Press Agent/Secretary but then sometimes the outcome is they have been misrepresented! lol
It's also hard to find someone that's 100% like yourself.
btw, Welcome back Greek ;)
yeah Man, Phi Beta Sigma all day long, lol
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It's tough to find someone just like you. I mean, I've gone down that route, but it didn't work. I think you've gotta look for people who compliment you and work well with your personality type. No one in the world is going to think the same way you do about everything or even appreciate everything you do.
Welcome back
"Caught with your pants down". That's a even better name for my post. Thanks for stopping by, my brother.
Just ran accross your spot. You can't change anyone and why would you want to? If what you found out is something that you can't deal with then you must do what's right for you. If it's not that major...then talk to the brotha about it. Don't run without knowing what's behind it.
Accept them as they are and then decide if who they are is who you want to be with. Good luck.
you cannot change a person...acceptance is key. if you cannot accept you must leave. fooling yaself into thinking you can change someone else leaves you in disappointment and bitterness...always believe a person once they show you who they are.
I second Omar's comment.
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you can't change anyone, they have to want to change for you. and the deal breaker is how much change is need and in what way?
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