Season of Friendship

Wow..2007 is actually turning out to be a pretty good year as expected..I mean even in January such great things are happening already. I mean even today on Sunday Jan. 28th three important people have shown their significance in my life. I'll present the 2 scenarios and go into a bit of detail about my definition friendship which has developed to be extremely unique during the past years.


Names and places have been changed to protect the privacy of each individual:


Scenario 1:

I was chillin with one of my frat. brothers today. We normally hang out a lot and I been putting him on a steady gym routine because he's trynna get right. I also helped him get an extra job on campus. So over a short period of time we've become good friends the funny thing is I never really noticed until he said something today.

So he's joking around with me on some other shyt so I'm finally like nah, step back you on probation. Seeing that I'm a lil mad he says "aww... you want a hung?" I'm like "don't touch me!!!", so he gets the idea and now he feels in lil bad. So he says "aww, you know you my best friend" am I'm like "nah you on the 10-step program now" (which means you probably gonna have to work hard to regain my friendship). Well he is currently still on that 10 step program so I'll see how he does this week. But about a lil while later I thought about it. That was a really nice thing for him to say, I really didn't think I was that important to him..t shows that we may mean much more to people than people think. He talks about me all the time to his family and girlfriend and we also have been hanging out a lot. It felt good to know that he appreciated my friendship so much.

Scenario 3:

Buddy 3: I wanted you to know this. I had this dream I died and you were in it. I really appreciate you being my friend.
Buddy 3: Just want you to know that.
Dwight Lara: oh i felt that
Dwight Lara: aww...i feel SO special
Buddy 3: I really do. I know I say this but I really thought about it and you mean sooooooo much to me.
Buddy 3: Even when you get me a lil mad
Dwight Lara: lol
Dwight Lara: that's kool
Dwight Lara: I'm glad to know that
Buddy 3: My dream was that I died and I never got to say the things I always wanted to say
Buddy 3: to you
Buddy 3: and what not
Buddy 3: The funny thing you were the only one in my dream
Buddy 3: No one else
Dwight Lara: damn
Dwight Lara: that's crazy
Buddy 3: Isn't it.
Buddy 3: It was just so weird. I woke thinking what the hell. I think I've told you pretty much all that I needed to tell you.
Dwight Lara: lol

All of this is significant to me because 2.5 years ago when I just moved to the NYC area, I had no friends. Now exactly what I wanted has been granted to me. Its good to know that so many years of picking and choosing buddies has paid off. The thing is I would do just as much and even more for my friends than they do for me. Most of them don't know how valuable they. I always wanted best friends, now I have several of them. Its a shame they may never really know what my love for them means.


A very happy Special K

Why You Dress Like A Nigga?!!!

I recently went to meet a bunch of my homeboi's (all straight) to chill. Jokingly, as I entered the room, one of them exclaimed, "Why you dressed like an European son?!!!" Now this dude is always getting on me because of the unconventional way I dress, so I responded "Why you dress like a nigga?!!!" lol, don't worry he didn't get offended, it was funny. However, the experience brought up a major point. That little situation is actually the apex of a much deeper issue: how innately ingrained black stereotypes have become in our own culture. Even in the LGBT world peolpe believe that you have to dress a certain way in order ot represent your ethinicity. Don't get me wrong straight people do it too, and even more so; if you're gay, you shop at Hollister, Gap and AX and only wear boxerbriefs lol. People believe that we must dress and act a certain way in order to accurately represent our culture. I hope this message hasn't caught you offgaurd, yes, some people actually do think in this way!!! (big sarcastic gasp).

We also make other black people feel uncomfortable in order to portray as the same stereotype we complain about in the media. We actively contribute to the way other races feel about us. We ourselves believe that black males must be thuggish , wear extremely baggy clothing and own at least one pair of Timbs in order to be considered a straight, attractive black person. Is spending $100 on pair of over-sized jeans normal? I'm not saying I don't where baggy clothing, cuz I in fact do.

The funny thing is, that night I was wearing straight leg jeans, a designer t, a leather biker jacket, a pair of brown leather Clarks (u'all don't know about that, lol, it's a British/Caribbean thing) and a spray painted mesh cap over a stocking cap. If you ask me that's rather diverse, which I tend to go for most of the time. I feel confident in knowing that I can pull of the hood look, the white boi, the clean-cut and the Caribbean look if I wanted to, as I have done before. I believe there is nothing sexier than a dude in a well tailored suite and as shinny pair of Stacy Adams shoes (big grin). I figured I would end this article with some good stores that I have personally approved. Post recommendations in your comments, I'm looking for some new shoppings spots.

I gave approriate discriptions and indicated each stores genre, contact me for specific locations:

Image - Designer clothing: Oscar de la Renta, Gucci, Seven Jeans, True Religion Jeans etc.)
H&M - formal, semi-formal, casual, miscellaneous, GOOD UNDERWEAR!!!
Macy's - Everything
Pac Sun - West Coast/Skater Boi Apparel
Jimmy'z - A West Coast jeans company (there is only one on the East Coast located in Manhattan Mall)
Old Navy (You already know)
Xios (A Japanese clothing company: they sell wearable remakes of high-end fashion clothing)
O.M.G. (only good if your shopping for Levi's Jeans)
V.I.M. - Urbanwear
Spencer's - Strange but unique items, t-shirts, accessories etc.
T.J. Maxx (brand name items a affordable prices)

Tight Shopping Spots:

Woodbury Common (Upstate New York) - Outlet shopping, designer items
125th street and/or Fordham Rd, NY,NY - Urbanwear, Jewelrey
8th Street (The Village) - Good variety of kicks
8th Ave. (between 42nd and 34th) - Urbanwear, kicks, shoes etc.

The best way to make fashion statement is to make your own statement, make it say what you want it to say, not what Sean John tells you to say.

Special K

Boy Friend Running Up Your Long Distance Charges?

Have you ever had a long distance relationship (LDR)? Long distance relationships have been a permanent fixture in my life. So much so that it possibly qualifies me to be an expert on the subject..lol. I have learned the science of these relationships to the point that distance doesn't become an issue anymore...often enough for the people it is still an issue. The question of whether one can be fully satisfied while in a LDR is always a pivotal issue. I've learnt that in true relationships thee question of distance is not matter at all. The most important element of the relationship is the emotional and supportive aspects. If the person is that valuable to you then there wouldn't be the question of emotional satisfaction once communication is sufficient.

Specifically, for men healthy relations consist of slot hectic, deep seated physical contact, (read with some sarcasm) BELIEVE IT OR NOT this is how most men express their feelings!!! How many times a guy runs through your mind naked is directly proportional to the strength and presence of the relationship. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. It's how we were made. Don't get me wrong there is a great difference between lust and passion, lust starts in your crotch but passion starts and is fulfilled in the mind.

So since It takes so much physicality to have a healthy relationship then how can LDR last, especially among gay men? Answer: It is emotional weakness that ends a relationship not physical dissatisfaction. A LDR won't work among immature people and most importantly one has to be able to make the best of the time they have with that person. If you don't satisfy them within the time they have with you then your leaving the gap open for cheating. So make the time and make sure you treat them in a way that they'll never leave because 5 mins with you is worth more than an hour with someone else.

Don't forget, communication is KEY....if you can't communicate then you don't stand a chance..save yourself the heart break...

Special K

Happy Fuckin' New Year!!! - by the end of this year you'll be sucking my dick!!!

Well, what can I say, this is my inaugural post. Whoopee!!! It's been about over a year now that I have been meaning to start my own blog but now in 2007 I finally made enough preparation to produce the kind of human impact I want. I must warn you I tend to be extremely entertaining and thought provoking with a tendency to go over board with my writing. There are so many things I want to say and so many things I’m happy about this year!!! Don't get me wrong, I have had just as much tough year as everyone else possibly more so, however the fact that I am here to today and I have more than what I started with in 2006 shows that I have progressed. Tonight's blog may be an extremely long one. It includes an introduction, brief history, recap of 2006 and prelude to 2007. So sit back and relax and let your mind flow...This is the whole truth and nothing but the truth!!! I swear on Buddha’s grave (-;

Profile
Name: Dwight Lara (alias) (year you wish!!! lol)
Age: 20 immaculate years!!!
Location: NYC: Metro Area, Local: Northern N.J.
Ethnicity: West Indian (Trinidadian)
Height: 5'11"
Weight: 170 pounds.
Occupation: Student (Law & Society Major, Bio. Minor, Pre-Law), Lab Assistant, Upward Bound Tutor/Councilor
Hobbies: Long walks at night in the hood.

The 411
I'm a very ambitious, positive strong character college student with an extreme vision and drive. My friend can vouch for me that I am determined and very business oriented. I'm a go-getter. I get up and get what I want (Why? Because I expect no one will do it for me!!!). I a pragmatist but at the same time dreamer which can at time conflict. I'm very good judged of ones character and I'll often after some evaluation tell you what you never knew about yourself..I take things for what they are. I'm open to criticism but don’t be confused if I challenge an idea or opinion, once something is stated it MUST be adequately defended. THAT'S LIFE!!! I love a challenge but I'm quickly becoming more less interested I that facet of life and becoming more practical in my decisions. If you haven't noticed as yet I'm lawyer in the making. I grew up in Trinidad and relocated (my own decision) to the U.S. in order to receive an education (something I decided to work for and accomplish since I was about 14 years old). I currently have been residing in the NYC area for about 2.5 years. I'm full scholarship student, honor student and student leader in many different positions/areas. I'm really eclectic. I'm not hood, but I’m not a oreo cookie either..I'm not a dork but I can compete intellectually/academically with the best of them...I'm not Tyrese but I'm do turn a few heads..especially if i have my shirt off...lol..I'm not club head but i can hold my own on the dance floor..super clean but not necessarily tidy....I often see both sides of situation and I can formulate a valid opinion on anything.

Past Events
The past year has been amazing, I pledged, I became a senator in the Student Government Association on my campus, secured the position of Social Chairman of my chapter of my Fraternity, planned and executed several events, gained 10 pounds of muscle in the gym (big smile), made good friends, grew stronger, more mature, more focused, developed my character, became smarter, gained more direction an insight on life and became bit more financially stable. Relationship wise I've developed stronger commitments, a better sense of importance and keen radar of valuable character which has allowed me to emulate good qualities.

Pre-view (2007):
Become a member Alpha Phi Delta (a pre-law fraternity)
Buy a car
Secure an internship in a prestigious law firm or company in NYC (and build connections from there)
Begin work on my thesis
Maintain a GPA of 3.5 each semester (or increase)
Continue to improve my visual appearance
Create good work habits
Kiss my new baby on New Year's 2008!!!
With that I'll leave you to enjoy your new year...I'll sit here and enjoy my fake Champaign...that my family is sharing out to the kids..lol...BE SAFE AND FOCUSED THE NEW YEAR!!!

1 luv,

Special K